“Is your son playing with a doll?”
“That isn’t normal….”
“Why would a boy play with a doll?”
Why has it become the norm to feminize a baby doll? At what point did people start deciding that a doll was not meant for male children? This is something I have never understood.
It is quite normal to see girls running around with their favorite doll, to ask for dolls for Christmas, and get excited if they get the chance to have a new doll. However, in no way is it wrong for a little boy to see a doll and decide he wants to play with it, or hug it, or play pretend with it. Our society has changed so much in the past decade but this is one thing I still encounter as a “boy mom” on a regular basis. I have heard remarks like this everywhere, whether it be directed at my son or another person’s child.
When a boy grows into a man and has a child he is expected, this day in age, to share the roles in the house that used to be known as the “women’s job”. For example it is not rare these days to see a Dad changing a baby’s diaper and it is actually frowned upon by many when a Dad states he does not change his child’s diaper. It is also not rare to hear of a Dad bathing his child and it is even not rare, and is actually quite common, to see single Dads in general. Now, at what age does this opinion change?
Jace is a typical little boy and is obsessed with cars, trucks, tractors, dirt bikes, tools, and everything along those lines, but he also has developed quite the caring side to him. I still have an old doll or two of mine kicking around my grandparents house, along with a play highchair and bottle. His favorite toy to play with there is the doll. He gets so excited yelling “Mom, Baby!” over and over again as he runs up to show me the doll. He always has the bottle right in his hand and the highchair close and he will pretend to feed the baby, if we ask if the baby is crying he will get worried and check that she is alright, and he will care for this doll. This does not “worry me” as his Mom, this actually does the complete opposite and shows me that Robert and I are raising him to be a caring boy that will one day be a good big brother, and maybe even one day (a long, long. long time away) be an amazing Daddy just like his Daddy.
If little boys grow up being told they aren’t aloud playing with dolls because those are for girls, it is quite possible they will grow up with that mind set when a human baby is welcomed into your home or when they, some day, have their own baby to care for.
We, as their parents, shouldn’t limit their abilities or thoughts we should encourage them to learn new things, try new things, and care for others, and this is exactly why I will not stop my son from wanting to play with a doll, because to me playing with a doll is not a sign of feminism, it is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of tenderness, kindness, and – to be brutally honest – it is a sign of a child being a child and playing pretend. Playing pretend and using an imagination is how our children will grow and learn. We should be encouraging them to do this, regardless of whether they are a girl or boy, instead of discouraging them because of the “image” it may portray to others.
What is your thoughts on boys playing with dolls? Will you let you son play with a doll if he wants to? How important do you think imagination is for a child’s development? I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic so make sure you comment, send me a message through the “contact me” page, or check out my Instagram “adventuresofthegroots” and personal message me there. Make sure you share, share, share.
This Mama is off to shower after a nice hot yoga session, climb in to bed, and get a good night’s rest! Stay tuned for some more struggles, chaos & fun from this Mediocre Mommy! ❤